Thank you for that reply. Personally, I would be very forthright and tell them that adultery is clearly a sin in God's eyes, and that Jesus even said it was just as bad to lust after a woman who is not your wife. After all, we are counseled to imitate Christ, and I just can't see Jesus "beating around the bush" and using man's reasoning to dissuade someone from sinning. I do see Jesus in the Bible telling people, "Woe to you" for doing what you're doing. In an earlier post you mentioned Matthew 7:5. Mat 7:1 Judge not, that ye be not judged. Mat 7:2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. Mat 7:3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Mat 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye? Mat 7:5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. Matthew Henry's Commentary has this to say: "Because we must not judge others, which is a great sin, it does not therefore follow that we must not reprove others, which is a great duty, and may be a means of saving a soul from death; however, it will be a means of saving our souls from sharing in their guilt." Although Jesus said not to judge other people, and He also said that some people need to take care of their own faults rather than be critical of others' faults (as the Pharisees were critical judgmental of Jesus and His disciples while they would not correct their own haughtiness, hypocrisy, sense of superiority, and self-righteous attitudes). Yet Jesus also left room in verse 5 for reproving; those who have 'cast the beam out' of their own eye are qualified to help others see the splinters in their own eyes. Even though we never want to be haughty or to think ourselves better than the other person, we have a moral obligation to lead them (with love) toward a more correct understanding of God's will concerning sinfulness. Gal 6:1 Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted. Restoration requires helping the person see the error of his ways. It's like the 12-step program for alcoholics: the alcoholic must first recognize and admit to himself that he is an alcoholic, before he can proceed further toward recovery. Likewise, the sinner must first recognize his sin as sin, before he can take any steps to put away sinfulness. And the Word of God, quickened by the Holy Spirit, is the most convicting information one can (and should) share to help the person take that critical first step. When we do this, have we thereby judged the person? Not at all. Have we judged the sin and reproved the person? Yes, we have. I should add that the scenario I posed is not the same thing as someone walking up to another person out of the blue and criticizing them in a self-righteous (non-loving) manner. Like, "I hear you're an adulterer (or gay, or whatever)! You'd better get right with God, or you're going to hell!"