This is an article it took me more effort to publish than to write. Not because it could be considered controversial but because I expose my own weaknesses. http://faithinghope.com/theology/facing-what-my-faith-fears/
Thank you for sharing. Love and compassion doesn't equal approval which is where I think you're headed. Anyone who has raised kids thru the teen years understands that.
Takes courage to expose our weaknesses. I too agree with Dave that we should never make the mistake of equating love/compassion with approval.